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A Bunch ‘A Pucky

Sometimes newcomers exclaim, “God?!  What does that S.O.B have to do with my compulsive eating?!”  This freak-out moment, which almost all of us have had, occurs only when the first two steps have not been completed by the upset new OA member.  And I put this out there because Step 3 is actually really simple once we have taken 1 and 2.

Once we are on Step 3 a couple things should have happened.  The first is that we have fully realized that we have an abnormal reaction to food that will never leave us and we have stopped trying to fight that reality.  The second is that we realize that fighting our compulsive food behaviors is completely nuts-o and that only something greater than ourselves (and greater than food) can bring us peace.  If these two things have occurred within the soul of a food addict, then Step 3 is a very simple task.

The OA 12&12 keeps it real for us by saying, “Note that we have said the step is simple; we have not said it is easy.” –OA 12&12 p. 19

I love that our literature keeps it real and totally on the up-and-up.  Step 3 is very simple, yet it isn’t easy.  Isn’t that the truth!  Suddenly, I am living on a spiritual basis…and no longer trying to manipulate and control things so that I get my way.  Step 3 asks something of me…something that for some reason is very difficult to do…and that is to be nice to other people, be honest, and love others.

Yes!!  It is that easy to work Step 3!  My first sponsor, Ms. Angel, said it best, “Lauren L, the way to work Step 3 is to stop acting like an a**hole.”

So, what does God have to do with my compulsive eating?

“Once we compulsive overeaters truly take the third step, we cannot fail to recover.”  OA 12&12 p.27

Thank you for my recovery!  I love all of you!!  See you at the next meeting!

Loving Myself


(I found this cool picture here.)

“I wish I had a coat of silk the color of the sky.
I wish I had a lady fair, and then a butterfly.
I wish I had a house of stone that looked down on the sea.
But most of all I wish that I was someone else but me.”
– Wishing Song, performed by Ralph the Dog on his album Ol’ Brown Ears is Back!

At one point in my life I longed for things that I didn’t have, both material and spiritual. Regardless of how fortunate I actually was, I wasn’t happy with my life. I had a nice car, but I wanted a nicer one. I had a beautiful home, but I wanted a bigger and better one. I had a good paying job, but I always looked at other people who had creative and interesting jobs and I found myself envious. I even remember sitting in church and in the middle of prayer I would look around at everyone and wonder who was happy and who was not. I would see those people who looked serene and wish that I had a relationship with God like that. But, I was pretty sure that God just wasn’t that interested in me. For a long time I thought I was the only person in the world that felt that way. How wonderful to learn that I am not alone and that my Higher Power loves me!

The promises of the OA program are read at the end of each meeting to remind me of what is possible if I just put forth a little bit of willingness to connect with the group. “I put my hand in yours and together we can do what we could never do alone. No longer is there a sense of hopelessness. No longer must we depend upon our own unsteady willpower. We are all together now, reaching out for power and strength greater than ours. And as we join together, we find love and understanding beyond our wildest dreams.” – The OA Promise

OA gives me the freedom to be myself and to love myself, no matter what other people have or don’t have. I don’t wish I were someone else today! This is a gift from the OA program. Thank you, my dear fellow compulsive eaters, who have given me recovery when I thought I was alone.

Keep coming back! It works if you work it, so work it ’cause you’re worth it! See you at the next meeting!