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Easy Breezy Step 8!


(This is my precious Magnolya who I found compulsively eating catnip.)

It was brought to my attention that I haven’t posted on Step 8 (nor on Step 9, but this post is going to be on 8 only) yet. I apologize for that, as it wasn’t intentional and both of these steps are extremely important to recovery. “The Promises” read in AA meetings, and sometimes read in OA meetings, are discovered in the AA Big Book after Step 9 (AA Big Book Pg. 83-84). Therefore we can see that emotional freedom and spiritual growth are found from these steps. They are essential for longterm, quality recovery. So, what are we waiting for? Let’s look at Step 8!

Newcomers are often frustrated when they read the 12 Steps and see that two seemingly daunting writing activities are suggested of us to work the program. These two lists of which they cringe are the rigorously honest inventory of Step 4 and the list of persons we have harmed in Step 8.

Even I exclaimed, “No way! Two freakin’ lists?! #%*^+$!!”

Alas, my sponsor soothed my fears, for out she pulled the AA Big Book and read the following quote,

“We have a list of all persons we have harmed and to whom we are willing to make amends. We made it when we took inventory.” – AA Big Book Pg. 76

Step 8 is not as daunting a task as we imagine that it is. If we have completed a rigorously honest 4th Step then we are well ahead of the game for the remainder of our step work. Hoorah!! Our 8th step list is our 4th step list!

This is sometimes confusing, for how can my list of those whom I resent also be a list of those whom I owe amends? Let’s not forget that when we felt offended, hurt, or were upset by people, and we wrote them on our 4th step, we ususally found that we played a part in the situation. Somehow, someway, we always seemed to play a part in every resentment we carried. Let’s see what the Big Book says about this idea.

“Selfishness-self-centeredness! That, we think, is the root of our troubles. Driven by a hundred forms of fear, self-delusion, self-seeking, and self-pity, we step on the toes of our fellows and they retaliate.” AA Big Book Pg. 62

So, relax! Instead of two lists, the program only asks us to write one.


I love you guys and gals! My friends and family in recovery rock! See you at the next meeting!

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